Meet Jefa: Elizabeth Sanchez - Calidad Holistic Wellness

Today, we're going deep with Elizabeth Sanchez, an entrepreneur and a beacon of hope in the world of holistic wellness. Liz's journey, marked by cultural roots, personal grit, and a relentless pursuit of the American dream, is as fascinating as it is inspiring. As a first-generation Mexican-American, she taps into her family's experiences and her passion for aiding those in ethnic and underserved communities to paint a vibrant picture of what it truly means to break multi-generational cycles.

Ever wondered how one maintains their authenticity while battling the notorious imposter syndrome? Liz gets candid about societal pressures, the trappings of personal potential, and the role of community in this struggle. She takes us through her toolbox, featuring techniques like EMDR therapy and reparenting geared towards helping individuals process their feelings. We delve into the power of voice, the importance of communication, and the bedrock of a chosen family, as Liz shares the essence of her work with clients.

Finally, Liz unravels her experience as an entrepreneur who's had to navigate the choppy waters of mental health. She lends an intimate look into her life with ADHD and dyslexia, and how these have shaped her boundaries, time management, and ultimately, her approach to work. We also explore the often-overlooked realm of self-care for entrepreneurs, underscoring the importance of seemingly basic needs such as sleep, hydration, and play. Join us as we unpack Liz's journey, a testament to the power of determination, care, and a little bit of self-love.

Meet Jefa: Elizabeth Sanchez - Calidad Holistic Wellness

I am a first generation, Mexican American LMFT (Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist) based in Southern California. As the daughter of an immigrated family, I have always had a passion for helping others. Especially, those in ethnic and under served communities. In the early stages of childhood, I watched my parent pursue the “American Dream” through hard work, entrepreneurship, and perseverance. Through the highs and lows, they modeled purpose in their daily actions and encouraged me to dream, and so, I did.

Learn more about Elizabeth's work:
www.calidadholisticwellness.com
www.instagram.com/calidadholisticwellness
www.linkedin.com/in/elizabeth-sanchez7007
www.tiktok.com/@calidadholisticwellness
www.pinterest.com/calidadholisticwellness
www.youtube.com/@cafecitoycalidad

Transcript

Kita Zuleta

Host

00:00

Hi Jefas, welcome to the Cafecito con Jefas podcast. 

00:03

I'm your host, Kita Zuleta, a brand strategist and photographer, born and raised in the city of Los Angeles. My passion is to help Jefas, like yourself, understand the concept of personal branding, to equip you with the tools and strategies to show up online. Show up, Jefas. Join me and your fellow Jefas on this storytelling adventure as we dive deep into conversations that break the gap between the real, unfiltered moments of life and the journey of entrepreneurship. While our paths may vary, the emotions and experiences that unite us remain undeniably relatable. We're all the same, same but different. In today's episode, we get to sit with Jefa Elizabeth Sanchez of Calidad Holistic Wellness. 

00:52

Elizabeth is a first-generation Mexican-American licensed marriage and family therapist based in Southern California. As the daughter of an immigrated family, she has always had a passion for helping others, especially those in ethnic and underserved communities. In the early stages of childhood, she watched her parents pursue the American dream through hard work, entrepreneurship and perseverance. Through the highs and lows, they modeled purpose in their daily actions and encouraged her to dream, and so she did so. Grab your favorite mug, pour yourself a cup of Cafecito and immerse yourself in conversations that will ignite your passion, spark creativity, elevate your thinking and fuel your determination. I see you, Jefa, keep going. 

01:49

Welcome to the Cafecito con Jefa's podcast. Hi and welcome to Cafecito con Jefa's podcast. I'm your host, Kita Zuleta, and today I am sitting here with Liz. I am so excited to have you here. Y'all we are starting this episode cracking up, because Liz didn't even realize that today was her interview. She thought it was our pre-interview meeting, and so she has so graciously but still willing to share her story a bit more off the cuff, with a little less preparation. So, liz, thank you so much for being here with us. I appreciate your time and willingness to continue with our interview today. Oh, absolutely. 

Liz Sanchez

Guest

02:56

Let's jump in. I'm ready. 

Kita Zuleta

Host

03:00

Bueno, let's get started with who are you, right? So please let us know who are you, what do you do, who do you serve and where are you located All right? 

Liz Sanchez

Guest

03:13

Well, first of all, thank you so much for having me. First of all, I'm a big fan of your work and what you're doing for our community, so gracias, and I'm just so happy to be sharing this space with you, so thank you. So my name is Elizabeth Sanchez I go by Liz, I am the owner of Cafecito and Calidad podcast so we have that in comment, or love for coffee and I also own a private practice, a mental health private practice in the city of Whittier, California, called Calidad Holistic Wellness, and I have been in practice for the last there's almost five years I've been, I've owned my own private practice and I service a lot of the BIPOC community. So I work with a lot of adults, specifically women of color, who are mothers, entrepreneurs, who are wanting to break those multi-generational cycles, who are half us and are struggling to balance, you know, motherhood and being entrepreneurs, but also the struggles around breaking those cycles within their families and trying to create different paths for their children if they are mothers. So that's a lot of my work and especially with my podcast, Cafecito and Calidad it's I noticed that there was a high need within our community. I see different clients there's. I have a huge wait list. You know I'm blessed. However, I don't like seeing that Our community needs services and unfortunately, there's not a lot of therapies that look like me. It's growing but there's not a lot. So I was like you know, there's a high need. How do I provide my community with high quality content where maybe, as they're waiting for some to be seen, they can see my podcast and gain some tools or some insight as to what's going on? So I launched Cafecito Calidad at the beginning of this year and we have talked about all things entrepreneurship, alternative healing methods, therapy, talk, you name it. So that's kind of where I'm at right now. 

05:24

I did choose Calidad because, first of all, our community deserves Calidad, deserves nothing but the best. So I was like my husband's father. He immigrated from El Salvador and he opened up his own little carpet business and it was called Calidad Carpets. And when I heard my husband talk about his story, he always said my dad said todo hecho con Calidad. And I was like, well, that's definitely what I do my mental health services, my business, I do everything with Calidad. So that's where I've adapted the name, in addition to my love for coffee. So I have that going on and it's keeping me busy. I also am a wife. I have a toddler, a two-year-old, who I love and enjoy, but he's a handful. That's a little bit about where I'm at and who I am. 

Kita Zuleta

Host

06:17

That's amazing so many things that you're doing. I can't wait to hear a bit more about your story on how you got started with all of these things. It's so encouraging to see how, as you know, I am just getting started in my podcast journey and it's obviously of interest to me to hear about, especially something that's so brand new, right? I'd love for you to tell us a story of how you started your practice and what really motivated you to start. I know you mentioned that you've been doing this for five years now, but what really got you into your practice? I'll let you know why private practice and your therapies and the tools that you focus on and then now how that's evolved into your podcast. 

Liz Sanchez

Guest

07:08

No, absolutely so. I graduated from graduate school. So both my I think my story really does start. Both my parents are entrepreneurs. They immigrated from Mexico and they've always you know they're very resourceful. They've always done something business related and I think that's where I it was modeled to me right To be your own boss and the hustle and having to. It's almost like there's this my parents always spoke of very highly wrong being your own boss and just because of the way that I feel like they were discriminated, a lot of racism, that I feel like that was their way of gaining control and really empowering themselves. Like I don't want to have to keep going through this and I want to model that to my children. So I always knew that I wanted to do something, maybe business related, but it was not. Until I think I got into high school. 

08:03

I was like I really love mental health, like I wanted to work with kids. I don't work with kids anymore, but I was like I want to work with kids, I want to make a difference, and so I decided to pursue a bachelor's degree in psychology and I was like, okay, I still want to be in the mental health field. But I believe it was when I got into graduate school and I loved you know I love mental health. But I was also noticing a big burnout rate within my colleagues. So I had to do an internship and gain hours and even after I graduated I had to do some hours. So I have been in the mental health field, I've worked at hospitals, I've worked at school bays. I've done it all. I was also working at a group practice at one point, juggling three jobs at once, going to school full time. I was doing it all and I was like I fell in love for private practice. I heard a lot of my professors enter the field of private practice and I was like I love it. It's mixing both mental health but also business. So I was very much intrigued by the idea and hey, I wanted to be my own boss. So I was like let's do it. But I had to really work on gaining those hours and getting licensed. So I was working three jobs. 

09:23

Then I got my license, I was working at a group practice and you know, one of the things that I noticed along the way was I always noticed being Latina. I had all. I was bilingual, I had a lot of training. I was always chosen over, like there was always a white woman or like a male that was always chosen over me. This happened a couple of times and it didn't feel good and I was like I can't do this. So not only did I see my parents like struggle through it, you know as a child, but I also noticed like I don't feel like this, so I'm going to turn this anger and I'm going to become my own boss and I'm not going to put myself through this again. So I channeled it and I decided to open my own practice and I was like I know how to do this. I have the skills, I have a good set of community of colleagues that are willing to help me along the way. 

10:26

So I left all those jobs, I left that group practice and I opened up, and the beginning was with a colleague. So I opened up a. It was a practice, it was so we both had our own separate practices, but we were still working together. So then it got to the point where I was like I want a little bit more. So then I branched out and I became my own, just solo entrepreneur, my own practice, and that's when I decided to launch my podcast. So I was like now I have my own solo practice. Now I want to do a little bit more. I'm craving more and that's when I decided to launch it, and it's been ups and downs, but I don't regret any of it. I've learned so much along the way. 

Kita Zuleta

Host

11:09

That's amazing. That's such an incredible journey to get to where you have gotten to, and so your solo practice, like your podcast, is just earlier this year. Is that what you're saying? Like yes, yes. 

Liz Sanchez

Guest

11:24

So I, I've been. I've been in practice for about five years as a licensed therapist, with my own practice, but not not till this year Did I become a solo. Just me and nobody else, just me. And as well as the podcast, I have my team, but it's just Liz, it's just me now, yeah, yeah. 

Kita Zuleta

Host

11:45

How does that feel for you Like? How was that transition after having colleagues for so long throughout school and through so many of that? What was that transition like for you? 

Liz Sanchez

Guest

11:57

I think that it was. You really don't have anybody but yourself now to lean on, like I have my community. So I think that there's a mixture of emotions here. I think that it's very empowering and I feel a lot stronger, but it's also scary, like to be very raw about this. It's scary because everything lands on you, everything lands on you and you're seen. So I think part of my journey has also been to be seen and I think I noticed some like. You've been posting about this a lot on your social media account, but like to be seen and to like really use my voice is been so overwhelming and I've had to really push myself to do that because, in order, when you're an entrepreneur, they don't really teach us this or talk about this, but the idea of being seen is such a big part of the work. 

Kita Zuleta

Host

12:54

Yes, and it's so hard because it's, I think, a big part of that for so many of us. But I will speak to myself and for myself. When it comes to like showing up as myself and showing up authentically, yes, I know in my head, logically, that I do not have to pour my entire life story and every ache and pain and scratch and bruise that happens on a daily basis. Right, it's not about showing all of it, but it's showing up enough to where it's you. Right, because the goal is to be able to serve and help and get either clients or customers or be able to help and educate. Right, but because we are the service provider, especially now with how much the culture has changed, to like, have access, like some people have given all access behind the scenes on social media and TikTok and you know, showing so much. Like we now crave to get to know the person behind the brand or the person behind the business, which is why you know that presence is really helpful for your community or for people to get to know you online before they shop. Right, because then they trust you and they can more quickly get from I just figured out who you are to. Oh, I like her, oh, I can trust her and oh, I can see myself working with her for whatever exchange, right, the amount of content, access, information that's out there. 

14:40

The goal is to help shorten the gap, for when it actually comes to the transaction of hi, this is who I am, this is what I do, too nice doing business with you, so excited to work together on XYZ, and I think it's so important and so real that you shared about how being seen is the hard part, because doing the job is the easy part for us, right, like we love doing whatever it is we get to do completely behind the scenes. Nobody needs to know, nobody needs to hear, nobody needs to see. Like that is our job. Right, and for you, that's getting to sit with your people. Right, and facilitates whatever it is which I want to get to know more about the tools that you help your clients with. But coming on to social media and simply an online presence and allowing yourself to be seen can be a big part of the journey to where we get to heal. 

15:49

Yes, and it's ourselves which is so like. Isn't that so ironic? Like nos duele vernos a veces, we were talking about the tools that you use specifically with your clients. I'd love to hear about the types of tools that you specialize in and focus on with your clients? What are the types of things that you help them with? 

Liz Sanchez

Guest

16:13

Well, I think, before we we got off and got disconnected, one of the things we were talking about is being seen, and I think it ties in perfectly to your question, because this is literally what I'm working with with a lot of my BIPOC First gen folks that are going through the same thing is being seen. So I think really, one of the things is really stepping back and looking at where does this come from? I know for me, being a Mexican-American woman, it came from our culture, not really. I don't know if it's not embracing us having a voice, and not only our culture, but it's also sometimes society, right, like wanting us to stay small, wanting to stay small and that's multi-generational trauma, right, that's how we survive, that's how our ancestors survived, our parents survived. Coming into the States is making themselves small and that then being passed down to children, and so that's been my experience of having to be small, more timid, more introverted and really learning to find my voice. So I think some of the tools with my clients is really working on processing that, processing that imposter syndrome, processing being seen, what comes up for us when we feel seen Oftentimes it's shame and really working through that and being able to practice distressed tolerance, meaning like being able to sit with that. So one of the modalities that I specialize in is EMDR therapy. It's eye movement, desensitization and reprocessing therapy. It's a trauma-informed therapy approach that's used. There's a lot of evidence supporting it and I've been doing it for some time now years and it's done wonders for myself I've had it done and my clients. 

18:12

So some of the things that we do in session is really looking, taking a history, going back memory lane and saying where did this come from? Where, what are some of the experiences or memories that you have from your childhood or in the past where you felt shame to be seen? Let's explore that. Let's process those younger versions of yourself that are still scared and that need to be seen. And I know for me it's very little young, young, young Liz, and really needing to work on reparenting her, being her cheerleader, building a community for her where maybe it wasn't embraced at home, but finding a community other Jefas, other Latina women, other women of color to really lift me, so that when I feel stuck or uncomfortable, I have people to that have my back or can hold my hand throughout the process, because we can't do this alone. We need community. We are literally a collectivistic culture that needs community, and so some of the tools. 

19:22

So, as we process some of the past experiences, we work on empowerment, we work on finding our voice, like finding words for what we're feeling. Being able to find words and how do I communicate? This is what I need, or what is it that I need? Nobody's ever asked me taking having those very hard conversations with clients and being able to explore your needs, explore your feelings, building that community, a chosen family that you can turn to or lean on. 

19:56

Being able to tolerate some of these uncomfortable feelings with being seen and being like look at you did it, Right, like it was uncomfortable, but look at, you did it. You were able to work through that discomfort, and every time you do this, it's going to get easier and easier. So you know, in short, those are some of the things that I've had to do for myself, and I continue to work on that with my clients, because it's a journey. It doesn't stop with one session, it's a journey that continues on, and I don't know if that's maybe been your experience, because I know that that's something you've brought up, that you've struggled with yourself. 

Kita Zuleta

Host

20:30

Oh, absolutely Absolutely, and in so many ways and in so many directions when you think about it, but especially thinking, you know, when it comes to work right, and thinking specifically back to the entrepreneurship journey, right, and then, on top of not just being the entrepreneur but what my job entails, which you know involves so much of the strategy showing up what your presence looks like, so really, what it looks like online. And what it looks like online and how it's presented. It's so separate from myself. The human right there is. It is the same person, but it's like I'm talking into work when I'm showing up online. 

21:22

right, I'm putting on that hat, I'm mentally preparing myself to dive into conversations that are happening with real human beings online, right, and yes, yes, so definitely for you know, for other people being on camera or showing up, whether they've worked through getting to that comfort of being seen, or they have been able, they've naturally enjoyed that, or whatever it may be. Your girl is not one of them. I am a photographer, I'm behind the scenes person. I'm comfortable right here. You know, grew up with being made fun of and early on also being the youngest one and feeling uncool and late bloomer amongst all of the older girls, and do you know what I'm saying? Like so so many different ways. And you know ADHD or, but diagnosed as an adult in the past. So you know many things. Get it at the other via, sour it out too curious, right, it was just part of fine, put it out. 

22:33

Oh my yeah, it's part of my now super power, right, like that's how I'm able to communicate, it's how I'm able to create, it's part of my creativity, it's what fuels how I do what I do, but in so many ways as oh no, haz esto calmate or require a shirt too loud or too fast or, you know, too excited, but there was always a version of relax, calm down or you know just, there's a version that needed. 

23:09

It was just needing to tighten how the presentation was right and fulfilling, said whatever needed to fulfill. And so, definitely definitely coming now with learning so much and going through a lot of that healing and doing a lot of that work, coming to this point where, especially now through this platform, there's a version of visibility that is going to be happening. Right, because we're still in the building where we're creating the content right now, but it's has yet to be released, right, but once it is released, it is very much. So this is much more of who I am no mask, this is me, right, like very much. So, still healing, but much more on the where we've gone through a lot of the hard part. 

24:11

We're no longer in the trenches and and really trying to now get to that point where it's just working through it and working on that muscle and allowing ourselves to be seen and and the way. A huge part of what has been beautiful for me in this process is that I do have a community around me. Fellow have us who are, you know, I tell them all the time I'm doing it scared with you, right like, let's do it together, because so many of us are working through those things, through those like stories we tell ourselves and I'd really love for you to share, because this has been a conversation recently in cafe. Sitos is talking about imposter syndrome. 

24:58

I would love for you to you know, encourage, like, pour into your Jefas when it comes to imposter syndrome, because I feel like at each new level, at each new turn, at each evolution and iteration of our business of life, of our season, that can come very easily and flood our minds. So, please, what would you recommend or how would you guide your, your fellow Jefas, when it comes to imposter syndrome? 

Liz Sanchez

Guest

25:26

and posture. So I think with imposter is really it does come a lot back to self-compassion, being compassionate, and I think you do a such a beautiful job already and like you're very honest and transparent with your Jefas, and I think that is part of the work, because you know, I have this conversation with my fellow colleagues all the time. It's imposter syndrome is always going to kind of be there, right, it doesn't really go away. It's just what. What do we do to work through that? And I recently, one of my colleagues and I, Lupita Martinez, we talked about imposter and she gave some amazing tools and I share these tools with my clients. 

26:07

But some of the ways that we do work through that imposter is absolutely self-talk, like creating a list she calls it your badass list like really creating like a list of all these accomplishments, all these things that you've been able to accomplish up to this point, and sometimes we have to see it and the minute we start writing, you're like, wow, I've really done all this and it's a nice little tangible reminder for you to be able to look back when you are having those moments of insecurity that you're like, wow, let me bring out my list and let me take a look. All right, let me take a look at all these accomplishments. I think the second thing is the way that we talk to ourselves, because you know we are our worst critics and I don't know if you can, you know, speak to that to keep up, but we are our worst critics. But being able to taking a moment and be like, no, I am only human. This is hard and you are so powerful. Some of the positive statements that I tell myself is you're powerful, and I have to repeat them all the time. You're powerful, you are worthy of taking up space, you're worthy of using your voice, you're worthy of owning this business, you're worthy of continuing to grow, and it goes on. And it's almost a mantra that I've created for myself. Every morning, I've even at being a mother. Every night I put my son to sleep and I actually tell them him he's two years old. I tell him these positive affirmations because I don't want him to have to struggle with that as he gets older. That's how I'm trying to break that cycle with him. 

27:46

But positive affirmations, creating that list for yourself, really once again build that community of other people. Turn to other whether it's other women, some groups, so that you are able to process the feelings that come up, because, once again, we heal as a community. We heal, our culture heals us. So we do need that support and definitely, definitely lots of grounding techniques just to kind of prepare you before you go into work, before you go and present. 

28:19

So some of the things that I love to do is definitely deep breathing. That's a big one. Practicing some deep breathing meditation. I do a 10-minute Tuesday, every every Tuesday and I ground with the community. So that's my offering because I know that I know I'm not alone with that, the anxiety that comes with being an entrepreneur. So I deep breathing is a big one for me, even just mindfulness practices, yoga, these are all different things that have helped me because our nervous system is on overload when we are business entrepreneurs and business women, so we need to definitely find a way to relax our body so that we can be present for our clients, and not only for clients but for ourselves, for our families. 

Kita Zuleta

Host

29:08

Yeah, absolutely 100%, because that's a big part of the conversation that we have in Cafecito. 

29:17

a lot of times with our fellow hip-ass words like we need to fill our cup in order to be able to serve our clients, be there for our families, for our partners, for whatever XYZ is being pulled direction we're being pulled If we are not resting, if we are not hydrating properly, fueling, really just nurturing our own body. Burnout is beyond just this hypothetical landing place. It's something that is experienced often and it not only affects our body. It affects our mind, our brain and the way that we think and also feel about ourselves. And so I strongly believe also that if we are not nurturing our body, that hurts our confidence and hurts like it weakens us against this battle with imposter syndrome and being able to feel confident. Because if we are so tired, if we are so tired if we think of, like, think of your toddler or anyone, right, thinking of a baby period right, if they're tired, there's a million different ways they will express it, but if they are tired, you're not getting them to do anything in a good mood. 

30:41

They are tired, they are hungry. All they want to do is sleep, all they want to do is eat, and once they eat and once they sleep, they're like giggling up again. Same body, same needs. We still need to eat, we still need to sleep, we need to rest, we need to play. You know so many of those same needs. That we need is going to really help us maintain a stronger headspace as we navigate real life and entrepreneurship, and all the waves that come with it. 

Liz Sanchez

Guest

31:13

Totally, and I love how you're definitely talking about burnout, because it's one of the big topics in the work that I do with clients. But within myself and I see it within my fellow colleagues we are all either working through burnout or we're burned out, and one of the biggest I definitely think one of the antidotes to that is boundaries, or you know, because as entrepreneurs, it's very easy. It's not a nine to five. We're always working. I think that's the reality of things, whether it's an email, whether it's a client, whatever that is. So definitely working on boundaries has been a big part of my work, but the work that I also really share with other colleagues and clients is being able to really clearly define what those boundaries are for you. 

32:09

So I was reading a book it's actually called Slow Down and she's an entrepreneur and she talks about I don't know if you've heard of it, geetha, but it's she talks about we're in a society where we're consumed with polluted time, meaning that we are working, but we're also on social media, but we're also online shopping and what a task that typically takes us should be taking us an hour, taking us three, four, five hours and we're not able to squeeze in that self care, that play that you're talking about. 

32:43

So really being able to develop healthy boundaries where I'm only going to work from this time to this time, I'm not going to be checking my phone, I'm not going to do that online shopping and after this amount of time, maybe I'm going to go take a walk outside, or I'm going to go and contact a friend just to decompress, and then I may be going to get back to work, but we're not doing that. I think we're all like on just autopilot, just trying to like survive. So those boundaries are to take care of ourselves, so that we can show up as our best version of ourselves, and I think it needs to be a conversation we have more often in the world of entrepreneurship, because it's hard, it's definitely such a struggle. 

Kita Zuleta

Host

33:31

Oh man, I'd you know it's definitely come up before and it's and it's also, I feel, like a hard conversation to have because everyone has an opinion. We all navigate life, our business, let alone our brand and and our sazon and all of our. 

34:00

We do a different right, the whole point of being able to be our own bosses to do it what we do and we want to do it all of the things right Like we want to be able to define all of it, but also there still is some version of a standard that is like corporate hours, but then also we're available after hours and it's this expectancy that, simply because we run our own business, we are always available. And that's far from it a lot of times, especially when there's appointment based, when there's second jobs, when there's life happening elsewhere, and I love, I don't. I didn't recognize the book that you mentioned, but I have. 

34:46

I'm a lover of books and consume best via audio, so I've consumed quite a few books. When it comes to others, one called digital, digital minimalism game changer. There's also another one called 24 six by Tiffany Shane I think is her name, I might be getting her name wrong which talks about taking a full day off a week of any sort of technology and she shares her experience with that, and of course, these are all different. Again, via books. 

35:25

Opinions right about how to navigate those boundaries or how to structure it, and I feel like they're great places to learn from and get ideas from, because, in truth, just like we get to define what it is that we do and who we work with and when we do it, we also get to define when we are available and when we're going to be working, and it has been hard road to navigate for myself, even out. Let me speak for my experience, especially in the past year and a half or so, in order to best protect my mental health. I, as I mentioned earlier, was recently diagnosed with ADHD. So at the beginning of 20, what are we? 2023 to 2021 or 22, one of these years I was recently diagnosed. I also was able to recognize that I'm dyslexic, and so when it comes to words on a page reading comprehension I'm just slower and can confuse some of them, and so I communicate best via actual conversation phone call let's sit on a Zoom call or when it comes to learning, I learn audibly. 

Liz Sanchez

Guest

36:47

And so On the same page. 

Kita Zuleta

Host

36:49

Yeah, love it. 

Liz Sanchez

Guest

36:51

Love audio books changed my life. 

Kita Zuleta

Host

36:55

Would love to get sponsored audible. We both have podcasts. We will speak highly about your audio books. 

Liz Sanchez

Guest

37:02

Health or mental health. 

Kita Zuleta

Host

37:03

Yes, please come on. We need more brown, audible sponsorships. Come on now Better when I mean I'm not gonna say no, we it may come running Better. I have had to learn it and I'm also in a season where I recently had to get a second job, so I have a nine to five job on top of my business. Then what grew into my community and then now my podcast. 

37:33

I'm managing quite a bit happening back here and so I have been experiencing moments of burnout because there is a lot and I can say that because I have quite I have through the healing process and really recognizing in order to best protect myself. I have to allow the delay in email and I have to allow the not seeing notifications and kind of living on do not disturb and being okay with whatever. I may be letting people down, because obviously I know the delay in 2.5 extra seconds before I like somebody's comment. You know like I'm probably hurting their feelings and even though that's not what my goal is, I have to fill my cup, protect my brain, make sure I'm not overstimulated with everything going on in order for me to be able to come back and best serve my clients, be able to finish a project, show up for a podcast interview, be able to actually do my day job, whatever it may be. 

38:31

I've had to learn that that compartmentalizing has become a version of my boundary setting, where it's like for these hours I need to be on, do not disturb, and I need to focus, or I need to. Just I'm only working for X amount of coworking hours and then after that I'm going straight to bed or I'm allowing myself to check out or XYZ, and I feel like it takes a lot of introspection and studying of our patterns and what works well for us, cause I'm talking to my experience, which is not at all the norm, hence what it is. But the point is that if we are able to better learn ourselves how our brains are wired, how our body responds to rest, to when we're most creative, I feel like then we're better able to protect our mental health. I like to say how much our head and heart are connected all the time, and our bodies, so it's a whole thing. Yes, thank you. 

Liz Sanchez

Guest

39:39

Yeah, no, I definitely agree with you and I'm really happy for you that you've been able to get to that point, because you know that's a real skill. It takes time. Some people are like, not even quite there yet. So I think that that's such a great thing that you've been able to get there. I too, have moments of burnout and I feel it. 

40:00

But I'll tell you something my biggest teacher has been my two year old son. It's I compare my life before my son and now he's literally has forced me to set boundaries and even as an entrepreneur, even looking at, like, my finances and how much my business has grown, he's a handful, but I've actually been more successful now that I've had my son. Because one I have to be more intentional as to what projects I take on. Before him, oh, I'll do anything and everything, bring it on. And after I was like, oh, I can't do that, that's taking time away from him. So the projects that I take on, I make sure that they are aligned with my mission statement and that they are like that they're important, because I'm not gonna that's gonna be an hour away from him, so I have to make sure that it's important. So that's one thing, I'm more intentional, I'm stronger with saying no, as uncomfortable as it is, I have to, and because it's gonna impact my family. And one of the biggest things that I know it's big in the world of entrepreneurship is raising our fees and my ink. I had to start making more money. Now I have a two year old, I have a newborn, I kind of need to make more money. So it forced me to raise my fee and to say I'm doing this not only for myself, it's for my son, so that he can have a better future, so that we are working towards building generational wealth, so that I'm modeling to him what my like having a good relationship with money and that we can do the things that he wants to. 

41:49

And he's also taught me play, how to play and how to sleep in. Whenever he sleeps in Like, so we play, like if he literally if I'm on my phone, he'll come and he like knocks it out of my hand and he like literally wants me to sit and play with him. And I got it, thank you, and I have to put it down. So, and even bedtime like being able to be present with him and doing the positive affirmations with him is really important to me and sleeping I've been this week. I was intentional and I've slept in. I started to work a little bit later this week and the difference that it's made and I cuddle with him in the morning and he loves it, so that's been another thing, like he's kind of forced me to and I'm gonna just cuddle here with him and I just feel rejuvenated. I feel like I've gotten rest, my body feels a little bit better. So I shout out to my son, dominic, because he's really been my teacher through this process. 

Kita Zuleta

Host

42:51

Yeah, no, absolutely, and I feel like that must be such a privilege to be able to enjoy that and learn that with him, and so that's so exciting. I'm so happy to hear that for you as well, because it can be really hard, instead of prioritizing the work or prioritizing anything else. Kudos to you also for listening to your son, your body, your nucleus and what it is that y'all need for your rhythm and what that looks like, so that's really exciting. 

43:27

So congratulations for that, and one of the things that I wanted to ask, now that you know, we've talked about quite a bit. I would love to hear, now that we've touched on the things that you talked to your clients and you focus on, but, you've been in the room for a cafecito. You have heard your fellow Jefas going through entrepreneurship and real life. What piece of advice would you just pour into your Jefas when actually in any direction? What piece of advice would you give your fellow Jefas? 

Liz Sanchez

Guest

44:11

I think we mentioned it or talked a little bit about it a little bit a while ago. But really work on filling your cup. Like definitely set time for yourself, whether your mom or not. Like you are somebody outside of being an entrepreneur and if you don't fill that cup, you are gonna burn out. So making sure that you schedule time with friendships, a workout class, a creative type of class, whatever that looks like for you, but prioritize it. Just like we prioritize our clients, like we prioritize our projects, we need to definitely prioritize ourselves. So scheduling it, whether you schedule it in your calendar, you put a post-it note, do it because we're gonna burn out. It's not. You know, this is a marathon and when we run this marathon, we need to take, we need to pause, we need to drink water, we need to refuel or we're gonna burn out. 

45:18

So I definitely am a big advocate for self-care, and self-care doesn't only look like I'm gonna get my hair done. I'm gonna get my nails done. That looks like am I hydrating? Am I getting my plenty of hours of sleep? Am I getting sunlight? Am I taking, if I need to, vitamins? Am I eating my meals? These are all forms of self-care. Like you're doing right, putting your phone on silence and no disturb. So these are things that I encourage. I'm working on myself, I encourage my fellow HEPAs, I encourage my fellow colleagues to do it, because it's a necessity. 

45:57

It's not selfish, it's a necessity. 

Kita Zuleta

Host

46:00

Yeah, absolutely, and was having this conversation with another HEPA also and it's let's break it down and it's taking care of yourself. So what does that mean? Instead of the spa or whatever pedicure, whatever extra luxury that has been sold to us as self-care, it's no, no, no. What do you? What are your basic needs? You deserve to take care of yourself to rest, to sleep, to hydrate, to fuel those basic needs, to play. That is self-care, that is taking care of ourselves. So I love that piece of advice. Thank you so much. 

46:39

Now, before asking you where, the audience can find you and support your work. I would love to close out with two rapid fire questions. No worries they're pretty easy. So the first one is whether it's Starbucks, your local coffee or your favorite, or doing it at home, how is it that you drink your cappuccino? 

Liz Sanchez

Guest

47:03

My favorite question. So I am a Cold Brew gal and I love my Cold Brew black. Nothing in it. So I cheers. I have so many different cups I can't really. I make it at home, I get it at Starbucks, I get it at my local coffee shops, but as long as it's a Cold Brew and it's black, I'm golden. 

Kita Zuleta

Host

47:32

That's amazing. I love that. Now, final question, as we were talking about earlier, Jefas community is a lover of books and learning, so what book or books would you recommend to your fellow Jefas? 

Liz Sanchez

Guest

47:47

Oh, there's so many, so there's books. But can I share a podcast? Yeah, absolutely. I'm a big fan of Jasmine Star. I love her stuff and so I love Jasmine Star and all Jasmine Star topics and conversations. But if we're talking a book, I am actually a big fan of Jen Cisnero. You're a badass. 

Kita Zuleta

Host

48:16

All her books, the whole series. 

Liz Sanchez

Guest

48:20

The whole series. I recently met her and she is hilarious and so insightful. So any of her books, and then the Jasmine Star podcast, is one of my favorites, and now you're one of my. Now that you've launched yours, I'm adding you on my list. 

Kita Zuleta

Host

48:37

I'm so excited to join the podcast world and be able to be alongside you and be like, hey, I went to, but I'm so excited, really, about this process because I get to sit with, help us like yourself and be able to hear your stories and be able to gain your wisdom. So, thank you, thank you, thank you for taking the time to do this interview with the with me and sitting with me but then also sharing with the community your wisdom, so thank you for that. 

49:08

So where can our audience, where can your fellow have us find you? Where do you hang out online and how can they best support your work? 

Liz Sanchez

Guest

49:17

Okay, wonderful. Well, congratulations on becoming a podcaster. You know that's, that's huge, so I want to make sure I congratulate you on that. So, where I could be, so I have I'm on Instagram. So Calidad Holistic Wellness is my Instagram page. I also have Cafecito Calidad, so I have two Instagram pages. My website is Calidad Holistic Wellness dot com. You can find all my projects on there. You can contact me if you want to work with me, and I am also on Tik Tok at Calidad Holistic Wellness. So if anybody wants to find me, that's where I'm located. Some of the current projects are obviously my podcast, Cafecito and Calidad. So we are currently streaming on Apple Podcasts, spotify. We have our podcast on YouTube, so you can actually see the actual podcast episode on YouTube, as well as my website, and we're also on my producer is going to hate me for this so Spotify, apple Podcasts and YouTube and my website. 

Kita Zuleta

Host

50:20

So that's where. 

Liz Sanchez

Guest

50:22

I'm located. 

50:22

And those are some of the projects I'm also going to be. I started doing a lot of Instagram lives, too, with other fellow colleagues and Jefas that are doing great things. So next month we're going to be doing it's actually Minority Mental Health Awareness Month, so there's a lot of different topics that we're going to be addressing around the BIPOC community and mental health. What else am I doing? I'm working on. I work with clients. I see clients to my private practice. I recently launched a private practice ebook, which is actually I'm giving it out as an offering for free. So as long as you sign up for a newsletter, you get a downloadable link and you can get the ebook. I'll be presenting at a big Andrea. It's an EMDR conference in Virginia in August, so I'm currently working on that. I'll be a co-presenter talking about the BIPOC community and EMDR, and I think that's it. If I'm missing something I'll let you know, but I think that's it. 

Kita Zuleta

Host

51:25

Nice? No, that is amazing. Thank you for that list so that your fellow Jefas can support me. And by the time this episode comes out, we might be mid July, if not right before August, so that that way they'll be able to tune in and check out your work. So that's really exciting. Thank you so much again for sitting with me, for being here with us and for sharing your story with us. Thank you. 

Liz Sanchez

Guest

51:53

No, thank you for having me and keep doing the work that you're doing, because our community needs it. Okay. 

Kita Zuleta

Host

52:00

Thank you. I really, I really do appreciate it. It's just an honor for me and I'm loving this process. I truly am. I truly am. 

Liz Sanchez

Guest

52:07

Good Well, thank you. Thank you for having me. 

Kita Zuleta

Host

52:10

No, of course. Thank you and Jefas, thank you for listening in, Until next time. I just want to wish you a great week and thank you for listening to the Cafecito con Jefas podcast. 

Liz Sanchez

Guest

52:23

Thank you for joining us. 

Kita Zuleta

Host

52:25

Yes, well, Jefas. That's a wrap for today's episode of the Cafecito con Jefas podcast. I sincerely hope these conversations have lifted your spirits and left you with a renewed sense of purpose. Remember, Jefas, you are not alone on this journey. Our community is here to lift you up, offer guidance and share in your success, knowing that there's an abundance of work for each of us and believing that we will go farther together. 

52:55

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53:40

Come as you are when you can and surround yourself with your fellow Jefas. I can't wait to connect with you at a future Cafecito. If you're needing guidance on how to take your brand to the next level. I'm here to walk that path with you. Book a free consultation with me, and together we'll develop strategies that will feel in alignment with the season that you're in, as well as setting yourself up for the growth that you desire. As we close today's episode, remember that your journey as a Jefa is an ever-evolving one. Keep going, pasito, pasito, you deserve it. Until next time, Jefas, I'm your host, kita Zuleta. Thank you for listening to this episode of the Cafecito con Jefas podcast.